tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753625788767557038.post5339120194188243827..comments2023-04-01T05:13:47.220-07:00Comments on Our Tiny Angels: On angerAmy L.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17013013895577702357noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753625788767557038.post-40244134094500412162012-01-30T18:56:30.718-08:002012-01-30T18:56:30.718-08:00Thanks, everyone, for your comments. It was a fami...Thanks, everyone, for your comments. It was a family matter, thereby complicating it greatly. :|Amy L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17013013895577702357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753625788767557038.post-35318221597810324412012-01-29T17:13:26.583-08:002012-01-29T17:13:26.583-08:00I'm so sorry Amy, I know how much this hurts. ...I'm so sorry Amy, I know how much this hurts. I still struggle with specific groups of friends and it just comes down to them not being able to understand this hurt and pain. I agree with others, if you feel comfortable, tell them how you feel. While I did this with a friend and in a way it backfired that I didn't get the response I was looking for, which was just an apology, it allowed me to move forward and leave that friendship behind. I'm thinking of you and just know that all us BLM's out there get you and are here for you anytime. HUGS!Kristiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03706233402148480701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753625788767557038.post-27689087204747623012012-01-29T10:30:56.828-08:002012-01-29T10:30:56.828-08:00I'm sorry Amy. I have been lucky enough SO FAR...I'm sorry Amy. I have been lucky enough SO FAR to have been given the option about attending certain events. I can imagine the internal struggle that others go through when thinking of inviting one of 'us', but they should ALWAYS give us the option. Even if they know the answer will be no, it's the thought of wanting us there and hoping that we might find it in is to attend. I always want to be invited so I can make that decision when it comes to me. No one should make it for us. <br /><br />I'm sorry this ended the way it did, but I would talk to the invitee if I were you. Just tell her that you understand why she didn't offer the invite, but that you would have appreciated the invitation anyway so you could have the option of coming or not. Tell her that it hurt your feelings. It will be hard, but it's better to let people know I think.ADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753625788767557038.post-65492649468983040482012-01-28T20:17:33.078-08:002012-01-28T20:17:33.078-08:00Those who have not suffered the loss of a child ca...Those who have not suffered the loss of a child can never understand, and in trying to understand - they imagine what they would feel and want. They say horrible things. They do horrible things. But truly, it is ofen born of love...clumsy, unthoughtful love.<br /><br />I love you, Amy. I am not afraid to ask you about your babies or to say how sorry I am. I can tell you that over time it gets better ... and how sad that is, too. But that is because I also remember my anger and disappointment at those who I expected to be most able to comfort me, to understand me... and were not.<br /><br />Today I know they did the best they knew how at the time, and when they know better, they do better.<br /><br />Said with love. ((hugs))<br /><br />DeaneUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12816834649074582082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753625788767557038.post-51920551611424091282012-01-28T17:03:33.893-08:002012-01-28T17:03:33.893-08:00Are you close enough to anyone who should have don...Are you close enough to anyone who should have done the inviting to discuss this with them? To make it clear that you prefer having the choice left up to you and that you are competent to make the best decision and so don't need it made for you?<br /><br />If so, I think it would help not just you to express yourself, but them as well. <br /><br />Stick to your guns!Wileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17276125021264602754noreply@blogger.com