Well, that was a nice run of allowing anyone in the world to comment on my blog posts without identifying themselves. Sorry folks. From here on out, you must identify yourself through a registered account (Google or otherwise) in order to comment on my writing.
After the two horrifyingly cruel comments left on my last post, this is an open space no more. I wouldn't be at all surprised if the commenter isn't the same asshole from the last time this happened...the messages were very much in the same vein. Obviously this person has never lost a baby in the second or third trimester. Believe you me, I'm not the one who needs perspective here. At all.
I have spared you, my darling fellow BLMs - and my family and close friends who read here, follow, and love Paul and me and our twins - from the hate in those posts. This month - and this season - have been hard enough on all of us. You certainly don't need someone else's poisonous comments to further degrade what little shreds of hope and love for fellow man you may have left. I know I don't.
And, for those of you who haven't been here long or have popped over from another forum, a reminder: this is my sacred space. Writing is one of the ways I process my grief. Besides having been diagnosed with postpartum depression six months after our loss, I was also diagnosed with PTSD, although I only found out in the last several weeks. I am discovering, unfortunately, new grief triggers all the time through my new pregnancy, and I write about those. If things I write don't strike a familiar chord, or don't resonate in some way, you are more than welcome to move on.
I'm so sorry. People really need to think before they speak/write, and if all they have are nasty remarks, they need to keep them to themselves. Babies are a blessing here or in heaven, but it hurts when we can't hold them. Wishing you the best and some peace.
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I am so sorry that someone would post something hateful. I know how easy it is to let a single negative voice trump all of the positive support and encouragement. Sending love and light your way.
ReplyDeleteAlso, ditto what Molly said.
ReplyDeleteSuch a shame that there are such mean people out there. I second Molly's sentiment.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about this Amy. Why are some people such jerks? We are hear for you and as Molly said, "they can rot in hell!"
ReplyDeletei'm sorry :( people can be so cruel, because until you live through something, you can never understand how it feels. may those terrible people never have to walk a mile in your shoes.
ReplyDeleteAwful! I'm sorry you had a troll around here. :(
ReplyDeleteI've only met you once at the Highland meeting a couple of years ago but have been checking in on this blog to see your updates on your precious new one.
Blessings to you!
I have just discovered your blog through baby center, and read the story of the tragic loss you have suffered. I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm here to tell you that I"m one of the people who understands. I'm so sorry you've had to endure negative comments on your personal blog, how sad. I do have a 3.5 year old son, but in July 2011 I suffered a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks due to Trisomy 13, and although I did not deliver my baby as you did, I understand the pain you felt and are feeling, and the grief you will probably feel forever. Since then I have suffered three more miscarriages, all in the very early weeks, and as a result, suffered depression and PTSD. I'm now 23 weeks pregnant after a round of IVF with PGD. So, just writing to say I think you're extremely brave for trying again and I wish you all the luck in the world--I'll be praying for you and your baby!
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